Amale Bouzlafa

Love… You can’t go anywhere without hearing about it. Commercials, books, shows, movies, social media, love is everywhere. You hear that love is universal, love conquers all, but what really is love? They say if you’ve never experienced true love, you can’t recognize it, and in some ways, I think that’s true. But in that case, what truly defines love? So, as you might have guessed, in this article, we’re going to talk about love.

Love can be a beautiful, transformative experience, but it can also blind us to disrespect. It’s easy to get so wrapped up in the emotions and the idea of love that we overlook the red flags. We make excuses, we compromise our values, and sometimes, we even lose ourselves in the process… Reflecting on these points can help you learn from experiences and navigate future relationships more consciously. Remember, love should always be accompanied by respect, understanding, and mutual support.

One common mistake is letting your partner “have the last word” in arguments or disputes just to avoid hurting their feelings. While it might seem harmless or even kind, consistently doing this can create an unhealthy dynamic. Your feelings and opinions matter too. It’s important to have a relationship where both voices are heard and valued. Compromise is important, but not at the expense of your own self-respect.

Another thing to avoid in love is falling into the role of a savior, or fixer. Trying to fix your partner or save them from their issues can seem noble, but it often leads to disappointment and frustration. Love should be about support and encouragement, not about changing someone. People need to be responsible for their own growth and healing. Love can be a source of strength, but it shouldn’t be a burden. It took me some time to accept this truth: entering a relationship with the intention to change or fix the other person is unfair to both of you. How can we expect someone to change just for us? Healthy, genuine relationships are built on acceptance of both the light and dark sides of each other, the beautiful and the ugly, the visible and the hidden. This acceptance is what builds trust and creates a strong foundation for a long-lasting connection.

Losing your own identity in a relationship is another danger sign. Sometimes, while trying to show love and support, we end up following our partner’s lead too much, neglecting our own dreams and desires. It’s crucial to maintain your individuality and pursue your own passions, as you are not meant to disappear in the relationship… A healthy relationship is built on mutual respect and support, where both partners encourage each other to be their best selves.

Communication is also vital in any relationship. Lack of communication, fear of hurting the other person or upsetting them can lead to misunderstandings and resentment. No one should have to guess what you are thinking… it’s essential to be clear and open about your thoughts and emotions. Honest communication builds trust and understanding between partners, strengthening the connection between them.

While love is great, respect is better. Respect ensures that love is healthy, sustainable, and enriching. It allows for true connection, where both partners feel valued and understood. So, cherish love, but prioritize respect. It’s the foundation that will help your relationship thrive and grow, allowing both partners to evolve together…

Trusting it will bring some light to someone’s shadow,

Amale 💫💙