Most people don’t realize they’ve tied their worth to conditions.
If I have this → I’m worthy
If I lose this → I’m not
Status. Money. Productivity. Appearance. Relationships.
The problem isn’t ambition.
The problem is identity collapse when conditions change.
When worth depends on external markers, life becomes a constant evaluation:
- Up when things align
- Down when they don’t
This creates anxiety disguised as motivation.
A conversation I had recently brought this into sharp focus.
We spoke about homelessness, and how difficult it is for someone in that position to feel worthy.
And yes, the situation is real. The hardship is real.
But here’s the distinction that matters:
A condition is information, not identity.
A situation describes where someone is.
Not who they are.
Not what they’re capable of becoming.
If a situation determines worth, then worth becomes temporary.
And temporary worth creates permanent fear.
Nothing about a present condition defines the next ten years.
So why would it define a person’s value now?
Detachment isn’t indifference.
It’s refusing to let circumstance dictate self-authority.
When worth is internal, movement becomes possible.
When it’s conditional, survival takes over.
And survival is not a foundation for a stable life.
Trusting it will bring some light to someone’s shadow,
Amale 💫💙
Amale Bouzlafa 
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